On Valentine’s Day, I want to send out a little reminder—You don’t need a romantic partner to be “whole”.
The Jerry Maguire “You complete me” line is the most unhealthy way to look at relationships and sets off all my “co-dependent” flags.
And here’s the secret, when you are genuinely happy and full living your life single, that’s when you’ll attract the partner of your dreams. Otherwise, you’ll settle for less than because you’re trying to fill a void that another person could never fill.
The only person that has control over your happiness is you. You can have the most perfect partner in the world and not appreciate it because you’re stuck in an unhealthy mindset or are blinded by your wounds.
OR you can be single and thriving. Like genuinely happy and full of joy, living your life so complete that when another person comes in you’re really careful about who you let in your life bc you already have a good thing going.
I went from having one co-dependent relationship after another until I stopped and just focused on myself for awhile and then when my love for myself was overflowing, I met the partner of my dreams. He has definitely enriched my life, but my cup was overflowing before I met him and that’s why our relationship is magic.
Had I met him before I did the work, well, we wouldn’t have been in energetic alignment.
The work to meaningful romantic relationships is always work on yourself. So if you’re wondering “why me?” or feel sad that you haven’t met the one, it’s time to do something about it. The same thinking with get you the same result.
We don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are energetically. Our relationship choices are a reflection of our own self-worth and energetic health.
So, if you’re single I want you to take your power back. Stand down from the man hunt and start exploring your self. I want you to define your life and happiness on your terms. And if there’s a yearning or ache for someone, know that you have the power to heal the wound that’s creating that pain. In fact, you’re the only one who can.